'Resistance is Futile.' - the Borg

In conversations with friends recently the topic of anger kept rising. Here is my response to a friend who is keenly interested in and working towards more self discovery and, operating from a position of empowerment rather than victim.

Anger is rife in the world. I have a long term fear that we are only at the beginning of it all - collectively.

I welcome your observation on anger and resentment and your willingness to subvert and side step it by focussing on what is more important for you.

What is more important for you?

You mention resentment.

The Klingons say "Revenge is best served cold."
The Borg say, "Resistance is futile ." (it truly is as it leads to resentment)
Malachy McCourt thinks, “Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

Have we spoken about the resentment spiral? Quickly, "That which I resist I resent. What I resent I take revenge on. (see Extraordinary Learning)

Resentment leads operating below the line and working against what I really want.
There is some more to say about resistance at a later time. Know that we all do this.

Resist, Resent, Revenge. ( revenge is a blow  'below the line')

Someone smart (?) said, "The best revenge is a well lived life." ( this is action 'above the line')

My mentor, bless him, always asked, "What am I getting out of this?". Actually he said, "How am I being served by my result?" Everything , each one of my results - the good the bad the ugly, the despicable, joyous, mediocre, - all of them serve me. All of them support me in some fashion.

How does your anger support you?
How are you at the effect of others??
Where are you operating below the line?
and
How may I help you work towards what you really want?

I encourage you to be clear about your level of ownership of your results - not to use them as proof of the how badly you think of yourself - rather to embrace your creations - to remind yourslef that you are the author of your experience and that you CAN re-write a new script moving forward. This is so important - I believe - as it is the 'ground' from which everything is created. Ground to build upon, ground to cultivate, ground to launch from. Good old ground -- the definition of which is "Truth in the moment". Get grounded in your truth because with out ground there is nothing to launch from- ever tried jumping with both feet off the ground? Get grounded cause building castles in air doesn't work. Get grounded cause without it nothing grows.

As you know anger is a  symptom. Doing ANGER is danger. Treat the symptom by all means so you may function. Leave the dangerous environment for a time, meditate, chant, go for a run, take up boxing or martial arts. Know that these are aspirins.

I think the  symptom anger points to a lack of congruence or little congruence. Congruence between what I tell myself about myself and the truth about myself. How I see myself and how I behave. I also believe that the degree to which I am congruent is the degree  to which I have access to compassion. Compassion is the antithesis of anger.

To access more compassion I must be more congruent. To be more congruent is to live in alignment making my internal and external worlds overlap.

This is what I think and am working on.